Unfolding your Greater Potential - From the Roots Up
NLP has its roots in psychology and the study of excellence. It was established more than 30 years ago, through the excellent work of American Psychologist Richard Bandler and his colleague John Grinder, a Linguist – who together closely studied some of the world’s greatest communicators and change experts. Their research identified not only the elements that made a critical difference for individuals who were reaching their potential in life – but also the most effective ways to extract and teach those vital skills to others too. Bandler and Grinder realised that for others to derive the most natural and effortless results, such learnings must be integrated within the unconscious mind. In essence, becoming ‘second nature’ to us.
In a nutshell, NLP seeks to understand the connection between our identity, thoughts and internal state; the way these inner processes influence our behaviour, language and non-verbal communication; and how we can most effectively update and improve those elements that aren’t serving us so well, in order to maximise our personal well-being and happiness in life.
NLP is a constantly evolving body of knowledge which strives to make use of the latest findings in Positive Psychology, Neuroscience, research into the nature of human behaviour, and even the study of non-human complex systems. It also rests upon more traditional, time-proven techniques and psychological models like Gestalt Therapy and Hypnotherapy. This makes NLP a very adaptable and efficient methodology to use, and as a practitioner, I can personally vouch for its effectiveness.
Essentially there are 3 elements to the NLP model:
- The underlying theoretical principles or presuppositions, which are geared around the idea that every person is capable of positive change; We all have the resources we need to improve ourselves and our lives – even if we don’t know it yet!
Also encouraged is the understanding that everyone’s experience in the world is unique, and none of us can really claim to have access to the ‘truth’ of what reality is. In order to get the best results from ourselves and our interactions with others, then, it’s helpful to hold this principle in mind. Let’s always seek to understand the individual and their unique ‘map’ of the world. What motivates them? What are the main challenges they seem to be facing on their journey? What holds them back from their own fulfilment, and what can we do to help them through these obstacles? What do they ultimately seek to ‘get’ out of life?
By seeking to understand these things, rather than just forming a ‘solid concept’ of what a person is like then judging them according to our own map, we can go along way to creating harmonious relationships with ourselves and others, and getting much better results and greater happiness day to day.
- The attidude or mindset created by the presuppositions: If we choose to operate from this mindset, we will naturally become more open and receptive, more understanding and empathic of others, and ultimately far more curious about who they are, and how best we can serve them to maximise their own happiness in life – as well as our own.
We also create a deep and fertile soil to facilitate our own growth and positive change in life. By understanding more about ourselves and our unique make-up, (self-awareness), and then applying the action steps necessary to reach more of our personal and professional potential, naturally we become a living example to inspire and motivate others. There is a genuine collective benefit here!
- The interventions or practical techniques, which allow us to actively create the change within ourselves, and to positively influence others. These interventions can take place on the conscious or unconscious levels of mind – within our outside of our awareness. In this way we can directly help people to change the things that aren’t working for them, and to implement new learnings, insights, habits, communication skills, behaviours and so on. It goes without saying; this positive influence can (and should) only ever be carried out effectively with the express permission of the person concerned – and thankfully it is well-proven that we can never cause anyone to go against their sincere will, or their personal moral or ethical code.
Understanding any complex system in nature is never simply a mechanistic affair – there is so much that will always remain outside of our conscious ability to know or understand. Similarly, no profound work of human art or poetry can be reduced to the sum of it’s parts. Again, there is so much occurring that simply cannot be put into words, let alone condensed into a scientific ‘formula’. NLP is best understood as both a science and an art. It is definitely not a mechanistic, exact or objective process, because the flow of the human mind is not an exact or mechanistic science. Despite all their best efforts, our neuroscientists are still unable to pinpoint the true nature of ‘consciousness’. And it is consciousness that we are fundamentally working with, here.
Given the above truths and the unique nature of every person’s life experience, the positive changes brought about by the application of NLP may sometimes happen immediately, and at other times more progressively, over a number of sessions. Results will also be influenced by the skill of the practitioner – thus it is vitally important that you always seek out someone who is highly trained, fully qualified, registered with relevant professional bodies, and who has a track record of good feedback from previous clients to demonstrate their skill.
For the best results, I offer NLP programmes alongside Well-Being and Success Coaching to help you optimise your performance, happiness and success in life. Do get in touch for further information.